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 Things in my head (which each deserve a post of their own but I'm tired and short on time)

1. Had schmoopy, silly fun time with Austin today: we played in the park, went wading, had ice cream and sat on the edge of a fishpond and were all sweet and romantic and generally disgusting :P. I had forgotten how much fun that was, and how important it is. It's not the sort of thing that you can schedule, but I hope I can find a way to encourage it to happen more often. Time like this is why I fell in love with him in the first place.

2. The genital mutilation and subsequent molestation of little girls really, really infuriates me. I wrote an angry letter, but I don't really know what else to do. 

3. I saw a thing in McLeans or Time Magazine or something about an anti-rape device a woman can wear in her vagina. It's like a barbed thingie that stabs into a guy's junk, and can only be removed in a hospital. I don't know very much about this thing, so forgive me if I say anything stupid or wrong.  Anyway, at first I thought this was a pretty good idea, but the more I thought about it, the less sure I was. I believe these things are meant to be distributed in areas with really high rates of rape, like parts of Africa. But if word gets out that women are wearing these things, I kinda doubt dudes will stop raping. I think it's likely they'll just take to anally raping their victims, which (from what I know) would be more physically damaging than vaginal rape, and, I assume, more painful. Also, a higher risk of transmitting STIs, which from my understanding are also incredibly rampant in that part of the world. I dunno. Maybe there's some culture taboo against buttsex that even rapists will follow, but I tend to doubt it. 

6. I think the indigenous studies class I'm doing notes for is very interesting, but I have a few problems with the prof. I don't think it's appropriate in an academic establishment to expect or even encourage students to smudge themselves (which is considered sacred and cleansing and stuff, and is an important part of Native American spirituality). I don't think the prof should say things like "Spirits ARE real. Psychics ARE real" and imply that her religious beliefs are true, while other belief systems (ie: Christianity) are false. I don't think guest speakers should be allowed to smoke a cigarette in an enclosed space where the class is being held (it was in a tipi, he didn't light up in a classroom). I think the prof should respect other people's schedules and not go overtime, especially with no prior warning when we're an hour away from the city.

That's all I can really think of. Feel free to challenge me on any of these points, especially because I don't know much about most of them, and #6 is mostly just my opinion (#1 is not up for debate, though :P). I'm making this post public on the off chance random people want to chime in on any of these issues.
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I just stumbled upon this article. It was written some time ago, so it may be old news to you all, but I thought it was really interesting. Obviously, I can't really comment on what it's like to be a guy. But I think the author was completely correct when he talked about wanting to be desired. When he described what it was like to be with that older man, I knew exactly what he was talking about. I was also a little horrified when he pointed out many men, many people even, have never felt that. It was a positive experience for me. That relationship had it's major problems, and I'm not denying that I got hurt, but ultimately I've come out of it feeling more attractive and confident than I did going in. It has also made me think about how I've expressed my desire for former partners, and I don't think I've ever made anybody feel like that. Hopefully next time around I'll do better.

I have been kind of curious about how men feel in today's society. Finding scholarship and dialogues and so forth on feminism/women's studies is easy, and I'm quite familiar with it. Are there parallel studies for men? I somehow doubt researchers sit around and discuss, say, the impact of advertising on men the same way they do about women, but I haven't actually looked into it so I could be wrong. Some feminists might argue that men don't need to be studied. At the same time, when the Women's Centre opened on campus I heard a few people ask (jokingly) why there wasn't a Men's Centre as well. My response, at that time, was because everywhere was a Men's Centre, and I think there are probably a lot of feminists who would agree. I've also heard the argument that if there was a Men's Centre no one would use it, and maybe they wouldn't, but how can we know for sure? Men have feelings and they get hurt, the same as women. Wouldn't they benefit from having safe spaces as well? If we want equality, doesn't that mean we have to give men the same consideration as women?


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